Information on Naples, Italy for Military Families

INFO on Naples, Italy for Military Families

HOUSING and AMENITITES

-          I can’t speak for the base housing, as we live off base in Pozzuoli. However, I have lived in base housing in Newport, RI, Atsugi and Iwakuni, Japan. From my understanding, the pros/cons here are very similar to what I experienced. If you enjoy a tight-knit community feel, it’s the place to be. While your house/apartment may be smaller than an off base one, it’s certainly safe, doesn’t cost anything out of pocket, and you can enjoy all the great space the SS offers. There are lots of large grassy areas and playgrounds, and you can easily walk to everything. The downsides are the “fishbowl” feel (you see everyone you know…everywhere!).

-          You may be directly assigned to base housing. It will completely depend on timing, but you may not have the choice to live out in town. It is possible to be granted a waiver, but it’s not an easy process, from what I understand.

-          All base housing is on what is called the Support Site. It is located in Gricignano, not Naples proper.

-          The SS has a NEX, commissary, schools, gym, CDC, movie theater, food court, salon, eye center, phone store, thrift shop, post office, library, gym, chapel, and outdoor pool. This is also where TLA (Navy Lodge) is located.

-          Most commands are located at Capodochino, which is in downtown Naples, and about 20 minutes from the SS. There are shuttles that go between the two.

-          Capo is mostly commands, but has a CDC, mini-nex, theater, indoor pool, gym, post office, food court, and phone store.

-          The NATO base, JFC, is another location service members may work.  It’s located in Lago Patria, which is also roughly 15-20 minutes (different direction) from the SS. Even if you don’t have a spouse working there, you can still gain access to the amenities such as the pool, classes, and stores.

-          Carney Park is a beautiful park with a golf course, playgrounds, sports fields, camping ground, and outdoor pool that is property of the US military. It’s located in Pozzuoli on a volcanic crater.

SCHOOLS

     -          Our kids finished out the last few months of school at the DoDEA school on base.  There is an Italian immersion program there, and my son was it. I was not satisfied with it (We want our children to learn to speak the language fluently). If you really want your children to learn the language, I suggest sending them to an international (bilingual) school. Ours now go to De Santis in Pozzuoli. There are some English speaking teachers and students, but it's basically all Italian, and the student have an English course. This school offers a nursery as well. It depends on the age/grade, but it's roughly 230 Euros a month and they'll do discounts for siblings. They offer afterschool activites for an extra (pretty small) fee - guitar, piano, sports, and karate. It's super convenient because the kids go directly after school is over.

-          There are many international schools near the SS and throughout the area. Many provide childcare for toddlers too, and the rates are very affordable.o

TRAVEL

-          Traveling to other countries from Naples is SO easy and can be very cheap. You can park on base (free) at Capo and walk to the commercial airport. There are a lot of budget airlines that fly from here.

UPON ARRIVAL

-          The Navy Lodge has apartment style rooms and townhouses. If it’s full, you’ll most likely go to a hotel across the street from the base, called the Tulip Inn. This hotel is very nice, offers large rooms with kitchenette, it has free breakfast and an outdoor pool, but they do not provide kitchenware. There isn’t a laundry room there either.

-          If you are allowed to live off base, and choose to do so, it’s a bit of a process, and requires a lot of patience. Most people spend a couple of months in TLA before moving into a home. Searching for a home takes time, but it also takes a good bit of time for required inspections and paperwork once you’ve found the home. It’s very important to find a home with a good landlord, so I recommend getting references if possible.

MONEY

-           Check the COLA calculator for Naples. You can make a SUBSTANTIAL amount of money here. When you check the calculator, realize that the amount is for a two week period (so the monthly rate is double that). COLA, if you aren't aware, is Cost Of Living Allowance, and it's an entitlement you receive for the duration of your tour. It fluctuates every pay period, but you can get an idea of what is by checking the past payments on the calculator. This money is ON TOP of base pay and OHA and other entitlements like flight pay, etc. 

-       If you live in town, you also receive a housing allowance (OHA) and stipend for other bills. You can live VERY comfortably on these. 

-          Some things are cheaper here (a typical pizza is 4 euros and a bottle of decent wine can be cheaper than a bottle of water), fresh produce, cheese, and meat are available and cheap all over.

-          Gas is more expensive. However, you can purchase vouchers through the NEX that you can use at local gas stations. So you end up paying for gas at a price more comparable to what you’d pay in the states. You are only allotted a certain amount of vouchers to purchase though, so once you’ve used your monthly amount, you have to pay out of pocket the same price as locals. We’ve never used up our monthly amount, and we have two cars and commute a decent amount.

CARS

-          You can ship your own car here. We didn’t. We bought two used cars while here. If you buy from another military member, it’s an easy process. You have to go through a two week “background check” process if you buy a car from an Italian (commercial or independent sale). There are always several cars for sale by military members. Keep in mind that most are MANUAL not automatic. Also, it’s much harder to find a van or any vehicle that seats more than 5. Most used cars sell in the range of $1000-8000 range.  Our van was $2000.

-          You get your license in the Area Orientation Brief, so make sure to do the class as soon as you get here.  It’s possible to get to work at Capo by shuttle, and take public transportation from there, but it’s much easier and convenient to get set up with a vehicle sooner rather than later.

ENVIRONMENT/SAFTEY

-          The Navy doesn’t pay to have local water tested, so if you live out in town, you are provided water (either through bottles or Culligan’s service). It’s mandated that the landlord pays for it.

-          There is quite a bit of trash along some roads and in town. It bothers some people, but it can also be overlooked. Our particular community is clean, and I don’t see any trash on our daily commute to school, and the places we frequent. It’s out there though, and you’ll see some areas are much worse off than others.

-          There is a good bit of petty crime in the area. Thankfully, there isn’t a lot of violence, but theft is somewhat common. You have to be smart and cautious. All off base homes are required to have a security system. You have to be careful where you park, and it’s of course advisable to never leave anything valuable in your car.

CULTURE

-          There is SO much to offer here. The Amalfi coast is super close. Pompeii and Mt. Vesuvius are “next door”. Rome is quick train ride or a few hours drive. Like I said before, there are several budget airlines that operate here. Naples itself has tons to do. The Gaeta and Naples MWR/FFSC offer trips almost daily. There are tons of cooking classes, events, and activities to be involved in. TONS.

The Ultimate JUSTinCASE Car Kit

Keep these things in your car:

Whether your car breaks down in a remote location, you're involved in an accident, or you're just caught in a pinch, you might just save the day by keeping your car stocked with these things. 

Emergency Items

• First aid/medical kit. Click here for my list of what to put in it.

• List of phone numbers. If don't have your cell phone, or if it breaks or dies, do you know the number of your neighbors, children's schools, or spouse's work, by heart? 

• Extra house key.

• Cell phone battery charger and cord

• Toll/parking/emergency money – At least $5 of bills and change. You never want to be caught at a toll booth hoping to find random quarters that may have fallen in between the seats.

• Pocket knife/multi-tool

• Flash light

• Battery operated radio

• Blanket (we've used this for impromptu picnics more than emergencies)

• Matches/lighter
• Whistle
• Jumper cables
• Flares

• Water - keep in an insulated lunch box or grocery bag, since overheating can cause chemicals to leach into the water.

• Snacks - quick, compact, and long-lasting ones like a few granola bars. Resist using them for non-emergencies, unless you're good at remembering to restock!

Convenience Items

• Umbrellas/ponchos

• Reusable shopping bag(s)

• Tissues

• Lip balm

• Nail clippers

• Safety pins

• Pen

• Sunscreen

• Tide pen/Shout wipes

• Hand sanitizer

• Gum/mints

• For women: Hair bands, tampons

• Plastic bag

• Napkins/Paper towels or wipes

"MacGyver" Items 

• Bungee cords 

• Zip ties. You never know - these have randomly come in handy a few times.

• Scissors
• Parachute cords/rope

Baby/Kids' items

• Formula, if used

• Diapers

• Wipes

• Small toys, activity books, paper/crayons (I have a special small bag just for waiting in restaurants or waiting for appointments!) 

**For a container - use whatever makes sense. Items that need to be more accessible while driving, we keep in the glove box or center console (money, pen, gum, tissues). The rest of the items go in a a container in the trunk. 

The Ultimate First Aid and Medical Kit

THE ULTIMATE FIRST AID AND MEDICAL KIT

Keep this in the car, or while you travel on a plane!

A lot of people keep small first aid kids on hand, but rarely have basic OTC or prescription medication readily available, if you're caught in bad situation and need them. I especially urge everyone to carry aspirin, as it can be life saving in the event of a heart attack (which should be chewed - not swallowed, in that case). 

All of these items can fit into a cosmetic bag, large Ziploc bag, or large pencil box. For the car, I recommend placing the items in an insulated lunch box, since these items should not be exposed to heat.

I think it's especially important to have a kit on hand while traveling overseas, where it may be more difficult to find a pharmacy or particular medicine. And in any case, sickness doesn't discriminate the time of day it comes...who wants to go out for meds in the middle of the night? If you keep this kit in your car, you shouldn't ever have to!

• Liquid bandage serum - this is better for a deep cut
• Instant cold pack (they "freeze" upon activation) 
• Gauze pads
• Bandages
• Medical tape
• Antibiotic cream
• Antiseptic wipes
• Aspirin - **while this isn't my pain reliever of choice, it CAN SAVE A LIFE in the event of a heart attack!! 
• Child and/or infant pain reliever (and cup/syringe)
• Child allergy medicine like Benadryl (for a reaction)
• Burn cream
• Anti-itch cream
• Diaper cream (for babies)
• Bug spray or wipes
• Anti-diarrheal medicine
• Any prescription medication (I always keep a few in a small pill box, clearly labeled with the contents, dosage, and expiration date), inhaler, or epinephrine pen
• Not pictured items
• Allergy meds like Claritin, if you're prone to allergies
• Cough medicine/lozenges 
• Cotton swabs
• Non-latex gloves

Tips: 

- Routinely check the expiration dates!

- Make sure it's kept SAFELY in the car, so children do not get into it.

- Infant pain reliever comes in a smaller bottle, if you're concerned about space. You can administer it to an older child, if needed. Just pay attention to the dosage.

- Liquid medications are allowed through security at airports. Keep them separated in a sandwich bag within this box (or larger bag), so it can more conveniently be taken out and put separately onto the conveyor belt for screening.

My Reflection on Talking to our Children about 9/11

Our family visited the 9/11 Memorial about four years ago. Our four children’s ages ranged from one to six years old.  Because they were so young, I didn’t really prepare a talk with them beforehand about where we were going.  Well, I should’ve known that my precocious oldest child would ask many piercing and intelligent questions in attempt to understand why we made them go to this place – a park with no playground.  In addition to the interrogation, something else caught me off guard: it felt wrong to take photos with us in them…especially posing and smiling.  There was a poetic juxtaposition of the scene though that I’ve captured in my mind instead of photo: our happy family, on a beautiful day, standing on hallowed ground where lives were lost…because they were free. Those people were targeted because they once lived the life that we are currently enjoying. Because THEY were American. Because the attack of thousands would hit deep into the heart of millions. Because WE are American, and attack on one is an attack on all.  

For our family, and many other military families, these lessons and stories come full circle when we’re hit with the hardballs. “THIS, my dears, is why your daddy, mommy, aunts, uncles, and grandfathers have served in the military.  Our military protects and fights against the people who do these evil things.” When I’ve had to fight back tears to explain why Daddy leaves us for months at a time, they actually had more understanding than I wish they would. As much as I’d like to keep them all in a huge utopian bubble, it’s not good for them, and I’ve discovered…they NOTICE things. 

The memorial is beautiful and we happened to be there on a gorgeous day, with the sunrays casting shadows of dancing leaves on the tree-lined walkways. The kids enjoyed seeing the water display, and we preemptively yelled at them not to climb up and play in it. They didn’t understand why, or the solemnity of the location. At all. But then, they noticed the engraved names. That was the subject of the first question, and the hardest to answer. The names represented human beings. Americans. People with parents, husbands, wives, sisters, brothers, children, and friends. It hurt to answer my daughter, but I told her the truth, as honestly and simply as I could. I explained that those were all people who lost their lives in a terrible incident, caused by very bad people. Once again, I was wrong; this time in thinking my overly simplistic and elementary answer would suffice. It actually ended up opening about ten cans of worms, and a whole lesson in theology and our faith in Christ.  Not all the questions came at the moment…because, “squirrel!” and thirst, and boredom, and the popcorn-like thoughts and actions that occur in young kids. 

Sometimes, those questions still come. It may have more to do with our strange and unique life situation, though. I mean, we’ve lived in Japan and now Italy. We’ve visited my sister in Korea and Pearl Harbor, Hawaii. We’ve traveled to Vietnam, NYC, and D.C.. Just think of the history in those places…it’s like we’re on a War Tour.  They’ve asked the question, “Why do American military people live in other countries?” and received a history lesson afterward. They’re getting quite the education through life experience.

Because of our travels, our military service, and our conversations, it is my sincere hope that they grow up with a deeper understanding of history, the effects of war, the patriotism that Americans (and our family) share, an empathy that extends to people who are not exactly like them, and finally, gratitude – for the freedoms we enjoy every single day.

I feel like it is also incredibly important for children to understand the reality of evil: that it always has, and always will exist on Earth.  I’ve explained this honestly to my children as well…not to instill fear (which it hasn’t), but in context of our faith, and in awareness. I never make statements like that without following up with the fact that Mommy and Daddy take our jobs of protecting them very seriously, that our God is good and more powerful than evil, and that our lives here are temporary. 

Maybe to some, these truths are too cruel to share with young minds, and maybe it is, for your children. I don’t believe it’s prudent for parents to discuss heavy topics for kids who aren’t ready to hear them. What I’m suggesting, however, is that when heavy topics come up, we can meet our children with the same level of maturity in the questions they ask.  And it doesn’t mean that we have to go into any gruesome details. I’ve just found, in practice, with my own children, is that they can handle it, and it doesn’t scar them. Instead, I think they’re quite wiser.

So, if you ever find yourself with your children (even young) in a place like Hiroshima, the 9/11 Memorial, or any other hallowed ground (or if the topics comes up in other ways), my personal advice is to 1) be more prepared than me to address questions, and 2) consider giving your children the gift of knowledge, perspective, empathy, and gratitude with your honest answers and explanations…if you think they’re ready to hear them.

Depression and Anxiety Coping Techniques

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychiatrist or psychologist, or even counselor. The following information is from my own personal research, therapy, and (too much) experience coping with depression, anxiety, and panic attacks. I'm sharing strategies I've learned that have worked for me.

PHYSICALLY
Don't forget or dismiss your physical health when you're trying to work through your mental issues.  There is a well-established association between your physical and mental well-being. I can certainly personally attest that my mental state improves when I take care of myself physically (and vice versa). As with about anything, it's easier said than done.

Medication. 
- A psychiatrist will make this call after a comprehensive exam assessing your vitals, evaluating your medical history, current condition, and interviewing you. An important discernment the doctor will make is if your mental condition is affecting your FUNCTION - is it significantly getting it the way of your everyday life, to the point you struggle in your job, or with taking care of yourself and/or others. 
- If you've never seen a psychiatrist, start first with your primary care provider. You may need a referral. Medication isn't necessary for everyone, but it can definitely help and it is worth trying, especially if you've exhausted all other coping strategies, and still don't feel right. 
- Keep in mind, there are A LOT of different medications with target different chemical processes in the body. One may work better than another. Sometimes a cocktail of two different medications will work when only one doesn't. And it's also worth noting that a lot of psychiatric drugs take a good deal of time to work, so you have to be patient. 
- Random advice: If you're taking an anti-depressant, avoid grapefruit and it's juice!
Fitness. 
- There isn't much to expound upon here. If you aren't an avid exerciser, at least try to get up and get moving.
- If you take a regular walk, with a friend, outside, you are hitting up 4 strategies at once (fitness, routine, relationship building, and nature), so I highly suggest this activity! 
Diet. 
- Other than suggesting the usual, and somewhat obvious healthy diet (protein-rich, lots of fruits and vegetables), consider eating more omega-3 fats (salmon, tuna, or by supplement), probiotics (there is science behind the relationship of gut health and mental disorders). 
- Also, try to limit caffeine and alcohol...and I mean really try to discipline yourself with these. It's tough, because each can make you feel better, but only temporarily. They can be both addictive and destructive, or at the very list disruptive to the path of improving your mental health. Alcohol interferes with most medications, too.
Sleep. 
- If you have problems GETTING to sleep, then you may consider medication for this too. I am an advocate to using medication as a last resort instead of a go-to, though. 
- You can also try the supplement Melatonin thirty minutes before bedtime. -  
- Lifestyle changes that improve sleep: going electronic free in the evenings, especially while you're IN your bed, having a routine bedtime and wake time, not eating within a few hours of bedtime, and keeping your room cool.
Hygiene. 
- You'll feel better when you feel clean and look better. Make the effort to take care of yourself in the most basic ways. The simple tasks of taking a shower, brushing your hair, fixing your hair, and putting on decent clothes can seem to difficult when you're really in the rut of depression or anxiety, but it can be the first step in motivating yourself to go on to accomplish other things, and may just be the little zap of energy you need to get through a day in which you didn't actually HAVE to do those things.
Massage. 
- Anxiety can cause physical tension in your muscles. Massage therapy will release it! If it's not in your budget to get a professional massage, there are some products out there that you can use on yourself. You can also ask your spouse/partner to help out.
Nature. 
- Sunshine is good for the soul, and there's science behind that claim. A lot of outdoor activities go hand-in-hand with physical fitness (a two for one deal!), but it's also helpful to go outside on a nice day, and stare at the clouds. 
- Garden.
- Engage your senses while outdoors. Take in the fresh air, feel the warmth of sunshine on your face, listen to the sounds of birds and insects, and embrace all the details in creation around you.
Practice breathing exercises. One example.
Love. 
- Give hugs and kisses! 


MENTALLY
Our brains are active organs, constantly receiving and responding to stimuli. Depression and anxiety are developments of a lot of negative responses. We have to "retrain" our brains in positive ways.


Goals. 
- Set them, and work towards achieving them. Even if they are seemingly small. Write them out and post them somewhere where you can see them and track progress.
Accomplishments. 
- Completing tasks makes you feel accomplished. Feeling successful, even in the smallest of tasks, can give you a boost of self-confidence and sense of purpose. Do your chores! :)
Routine and healthy habits. 
- Ensure there is structure in your day. A lot of my anxiety develops when I lack of control (perceived or real). Establishing a schedule helps give you a sense of control. Try to plan your meals, social time, and physical activity. It's easier to make good habits when you have them on the schedule.
Brain fitness. 
-By this, I mean engage your brain academically. This can be done through reading, doing a puzzle, playing a game, or taking on a project. 
Controlling your thoughts. 
-Although intuitive and obvious for depression and anxiety, it's arguably the most challenging...considering if we could control our own thoughts and feelings, we wouldn't have the issues in the first place. Well, I'm mostly addressing those annoying, involuntary little thoughts that pop in your head. Things like "I'm a complete failure", "I'm doomed", "I'll never get through this", etc. The first step is RECOGNIZING when those thoughts come to mind. "Listen" for key words - usually superlatives (like "never" and "always"), overgeneralization, and catastrophe-like phrases. 
- Once you notice that, allow them some credibility, but downgrade them. So maybe it's not "the worst day of your life", but "this day sucks". 
- Then, try to get past that thought with a positive  thought. So you had a bad day, but the sun will rise again tomorrow. 
- Lastly, take positive ACTION. Do something else on this list! 
- Also, find quotes or scripture that counter your "bad thoughts". Post them places you see them. If you find ones that really speak to you, jot 'em down on post-it notes, and put them in places like your bathroom mirror or refrigerator. Make it your screensaver, or somewhere you'll often see it and be reminded of the positive message.
Reading. 
- Read to learn, or read for pleasure. Reading engages your brain!
Learning. 
- You can learn by reading, but also by doing. 
- Try something new - a new sport or way to exercise, a new hobby that interests you, take on a new DIY project, go to a museum, explore a new place (even if it's local), or travel.
Taking a break. 
- Maybe your mind is TOO engaged, and you just need a break. Find some time for yourself, if you can, try to just relax. 
- SCHEDULE time to relax, if you need to. 
- If it's in your budget, and your work will allow it, take a vacation...even if it's just for a day or two.

EMOTIONALLY
Do you ever feel like you have stuff inside of you that you just want to get out? Be rid of? We do it naturally, but sometimes in unhealthy ways (violence, addiction, food indulgence, overspending money, gambling). Or conversely, we don't express ourselves, and withdraw into isolation, which is also unhealthy. The expression of our feelings needs to be guided down the correct avenues. Find outlets that work for you.


Expression through creativity. 
- Some of us are more in-tune with art or music. If art moves you - go to museums, paint, draw, whatever it is that you find therapeutic. 
- If you play an instrument, play it. 
- Listen to music that calms or inspires you. 
- Dance! 
- Do crafty projects. Write. 
- Also, journalling can be super beneficial, even to those who don't like to write or consider themselves adept at it. Write for yourself...as a way of venting.
Just plain expressing. 
- I mean in the simplest of forms. Cry. Crying can relieve a lot of built-up pain inside. There's science that backs this up. If you feel like crying and can't, sometimes it's helpful to listen to music or watch a movie that you know will compel you to cry. You have to be careful with what you choose though, so you don't end up feeling worse instead of better! 
- HUMOR is such an instant game changer. If you have any particular photos, memes, videos, or stories that just make you crack up every time you see them: keep them on standby for times of need, or post them up where you can continuously see them.
Therapy through professional counseling. 
- It's important to note that psychiatrists and psychologists are trained differently. Psychiatrists focus on medicine and psychologists on counseling. You may need both. 
- Psychologists or other certified counselors are trained to listen and help you, and they do so as a third party (more objective than family and friends), and with confidentiality.
Relationships. 
- Open up to trusted friends and family (another thing that's much easier said than done). While it's not always the case, the chances are, your loved ones will be understanding, compassionate, forgiving and helpful if you're honest about your condition.  
- Let them know when you need to talk. You may even find that some have similar issues to you. 
- Once you've found coping techniques that work for you, let others know what they are. Don't be afraid to ask for assistance. Sometimes, people want to help, but they just don't know how - so you need to communicate that. If exhaustion from parenting is triggering anxiety or depression, get a babysitter or ask a friend for childcare help. 
- Due to social media, our society is trending toward less and less face-to-face interaction. Make a strong attempt to communicate in person. The next best thing is video chatting or phone calls. Texting or emailing is better than nothing at all, but not optimal. 
- When it comes to social events, try to go, even if you don't want to. Sometimes you need some space, but depression and anxiety feed off of isolation.
Giving. 
- While introspection can prove useful in dealing with depression or anxiety, here I'm suggesting the opposite. Look outward. Help OTHERS. 
- To strangers: smile and make small talk, be polite, hold doors for them, etc. Send a care package. 
- Contribute monetarily to a charity or someone in need. 
- Volunteer your time with an organization or church. 
- Give a gift to someone. 
- Write or say encouraging words. 
- Let your testimony and struggles be comforting to someone else.
Gratitude.
- Write things down things for which you are grateful. Make it a daily habit to jot down 3 things every single day.
Love.
- Spend time with children. 
- Play with a pet.


SPIRITUALLY
These may not apply to everyone, but as a Christian, I know that my battles have a spiritual aspect to them, and when I find relief in other ways, I believe it's also from God. Even if you have different faith than mine, you may still find benefit and healing in meditation.


Guidance from a pastor. 
- Pastors are called to leadership within the church. They have experience in ministering to others, as well as a deep understanding of the Truths that you may need reminded of.
Service. 
- Going along with "giving", be of service to someone else through volunteering.
Reading the Bible. 
- It's where are the answers are. :)
Prayer.
- I cry out to the Lord; I pray to the Lord for mercy. Pslam 142:1.

How to Make Any Important Decision...The Nerdy Way

Have you ever had a big decision to make, and you just can't make up your mind? You make a list of pros and cons, but each choice has a pretty even amount of each, or maybe the things in which you're deciding between have about the same amount of items in the pro columns, but a couple items are more important to you?

Well, I have a very simple way to help you properly weigh those decisions - mathematically. It's called a decision matrix. I thought I came up with this idea back in college, but it turns out it has been around in just about every industry there is; it's just not often used for common analysis and decision making, for everyday life.

Our experience:
My husband and I used this very objective system to make one of the biggest and hardest decisions in our lives. We were living in Newport, RI. We'd never been stationed overseas. We had four young kids. His detailer presented him with three options for our next tour: Hawaii, Italy, or Japan (all VERY far away from the east coast!). My husband said "Hawaii, all the way". I said, "No way - I want to go to Italy". As we discussed our reasons for our choice and the importance of each reason, it made our decision less clear, instead of more.

So, together we came up with a list of what criteria was important to us for the next tour. Then, I took a turn at weighting each of those criteria (from 1 to 10). Next, I rated each location upon that criteria factor. Lastly, I multiplied the factor times the rating, and then added them up for each location. My husband did the exact same thing. The funny thing, is that JAPAN was the clear winner for each of us! We'd never considered going there until we did this. We discussed it some more, and eventually, that's the call we made! Some changes were made to his orders, but we asked for Japan, and ended up getting a billet there (although a different type of job)! We lived there two years, and loved it!

Try it out!
Anyway, if you'd like to see what I'm talking about, or use this tool, I made up a simple matrix on Excel. You can download it here. The one I designed for deciding between living in TWO locations (so a similar decision to the one we made). The great thing is that you can apply the same principle to just about anything (choosing a school, a job, a house, etc.)! You can do it for as many choices as you'd like, with as many criteria as you wish. You don't even need the spreadsheet. All you have to do is multiply! :)

How to use it:
If you want to use the tool as it is in the example, this is what you do: Fill in the gray columns, using the scale of 1-10. I think it's better to use a "weighted" analysis, which means you can use any number as much as you want (i.e. you can weight three criteria as a "10" if they're all super important to you).

Need Help?
For anyone less literate in the Excel application, and wanting to use this tool, I'd be happy to help customize it for you!
If this doesn't make sense, I'd be happy to help explain it more clearly!

Art Museums with Children, Plus a Scavenger Hunt for Kids - FREE Printable!

ART MUSEUMS WITH CHILDREN

Do you enjoy going to art museums when you travel, but think going with children sounds miserable for everyone? Here are a few tips on how it can be done...and even enjoyed!

I've learned, for the most part, that food and play are my kids' biggest motivations. I can usually keep them happy as long as I provide or promise those things! While seemingly simple and obvious, here is my "happy kids" checklist that I take mental inventory of before just about ANY even or activity, and each item is particularly important for doing an activity (like going to a museum) that they may not be too excited about.

Ensure they are:

- Well rested

- Fed

- Hydrated

- Have gone to the bathroom

- Have snacks/water on hand

- Have proper clothing for weather

- Have something to keep busy/their minds occupied

- An incentive to get through unhappy times (I'm not above bribing when necessary...). A small toy, sweet treat, or my favorite - time at a playground (healthy and free!) afterward.

**For the most part, these items are checked off right after breakfast. That seems to be the best time for us to do an activity like visit a museum. Then we do lunch, and play somewhere to do something more kid-focused, and then nap time (for younger ones).

How to plan your visit:

1. Do your research and plan in advance.

As an adult, I hate standing in lines. Of course, kids are even worse at being patient, especially if they line isn't an amusement park ride; it's to look at boring paintings. Purchase tickets online, if you can. A lot of times, you can save money this way too.

2. Check to see if audio tours for kids are available. Some museums have designed tours (via headphones) especially for kids! 

3. Ask if the museum has a scavenger hunt or other kid program. Some have tailored scavenger hunts for particular exhibits. If not, print off the one I made below!  This will keep them occupied and involved!

4. Talk with your kids about what you plan to see.  Find some fun facts about the art or artists, and share with them. You never know, they may be interested!

5. Allow them to take photos (if permitted). It's always fun to see what they find interesting. You may end up with 100 photos of statue butts, but hey, it may keep them entertained!  

6. Ask them questions about the art, like:

- "How long do you think this piece took to paint?"

- "What is your favorite piece in this room?"

- "Why do you think the artist chose this subject?"

- "If you were a painter, what you paint?"

-  For an abstract painting, "What do you see in this painting...what does it look like to you?"

7. Let your kids have breaks when needed. There's no need to "push through" if you can simply sit on a bench and take a moment to rest. We like to pretend we have batteries and need "recharge time".

8. Offer a reward. As an incentive to get kids to do the scavenger hunt, offer something upon completion. While it can certainly be a small toy (or gift from the souvenir shop), a treat from a museum cafe, or ice cream, like I said above, a healthy and cheap reward is to play at a park afterward! Luckily museums are often in cities with nearby parks!

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Tips and Tricks for Air Travel with Kids

Tips and Tricks for Air Travel with Kids:

- Put labels on the outside of passports, so you don't have to fumble around and flip through to find the ID page for each person in your family, as you're checking in or boarding a plane. Military families - also identify "official" or "commercial" on the label as well, to be sure you don't mix them up!
-  Bring things to do! Click here for my list of favorite toys and activities (that don't involve watching anything) for traveling children.
- Keep 'em fed and hydrated! Bring their favorite healthy snacks, and maybe some non-healthy snacks to dole out when you're a little more desperate.
- Airport security is a bit more lenient with families who have babies, but they won't always let older kids through with water. In that case, make sure you get a bottle of water per kid before boarding the plane. It can take a while for the flight attendant to come down the aisle with refreshments, and when they do offer water, it's in a small plastic cup. It's also better to have a bottle that doesn't spill as easily.
- Many airlines offer "child meals". If you have picky eaters, these may be a better option than the other meals the airlines serve. Be sure to request them online when booking.
- Invest in a good set of headphones. Whether the airline offers inflight entertainment, or if you bring your own electronic devices to use, you'll want a nice comfortable set of headphones. The ones they give out are usually not very comfortable.
- If you choose to use electronic devices, download movies/TV/music/games in advance. Many airlines don't have inflight wifi, and some charge for it even if they do.
- Before flying, see if your flight's entertainment is "on your own device". If it is, you need to DOWNLOAD their app IN ADVANCE! You won't be able to get it while onboard!
- If you're going to a new destination, do some research with your kids about the new place.  Borrow books from your local library on the destination, and bring those on the plane (or download them on a Kindle/get audio books, etc.).
- Always pack an extra set of clothes, including a set for yourself! I have had to change on a plane more than once (sick baby one time, and spilled coffee another time).
- Starting at age 3, I let the kids have their own backpack, and make them carry it. I put their activities, snacks, headphones, one extra set of clothes, and a jacket in it. The backpack with jacket/clothes can serve a pillow/extra comfort. My kids also like neck pillows and eye masks for overnight flights. They actually use them both! I keep the eye masks inside, but many neck pillows can snap on to an outside strap of the backpack. You can find cute kid eye masks like this and these.
- Make everyone go to the bathroom before boarding the plane. Boarding is often a stressful and long process with children...and it's much easier to help kids in the airport restrooms than in the tiny plane restrooms.
- I never travel anywhere without a medical/first aid kid, to include: bandaids, liquid bandage serum (in the case of a bigger gash), an instant cold pack, infant/children's motrin and measuring syringe or cup, allergy medicine, Benadryl, cortisone cream, antibiotic cream, and our prescribed medication. Trust me: it seems like a burden to carry it all around, but this kit has been worth it's weight in gold for those unpredictable instances we've needed those items!

Tips and Tricks for Air Travel with Babies:

Tips and Tricks for Air Travel with Babies:

My view: Traveling light is easier, especially if you travel with a baby and you don't have another adult to help out. Only bring what you absolutely need. If you are going to a location where you can easily find things like diapers/wipes/baby food/etc., then only bring enough (+ a little extra) for the plane ride.

- Most hotels have cribs or pack n' plays, and now some airBnB homes have them. You can search for homes that have them.
- Car rental companies rent car seats. It's usually around $5-10 a day. Sometimes it is worth it, and sometimes it's not (depending on the length of your trip).
In my opinion, carrying a baby in a carrier or sling is a lot easier than lugging and/or pushing a stroller around (depending on the situation and destination).
- You don't need a designated diaper bag; just invest in a great backpack and use ziplocks or travel bags/cubes to organize it.
- If your baby is breast-fed, you'll probably want to bring a nursing cover. I like to bring a lightweight scarf instead of a cover. It's more versatile, and I can wear it even when I'm not feeding the baby. I usually pick a neutral color that will work with most outfits. It's prudent to bring more than one, in the case of spit-up!
- You can bring all the food/water/juice/formula/breastmilk you need! Just double check the policies at the airports you'll be in, just in case. I have personally never had any trouble going through airport security with any of my liquid needs, when traveling with children. Just keep in mind you'll go through an extra screening at security.
- Always pack a medical/first aid kit. Infant motrin is not available anywhere/anytime, and in the event of a sick baby, it's not something you want to go searching for. I keep a bottle of motrin (and syringe), cortisone cream (for bug bites or rashes), travel size diaper cream, bandaids, liquid bandage serum, allergy medicine, and an instant cold pack with me everywhere I go. All of these have come in handy while traveling, especially in foreign countries where it takes a bit more effort to find such things.
- For snacks: Pouches work much better than jars or plastic cups. These spoons, that attach to pouches, are great if your baby/toddler prefers spoons!
- Buy disposable bibs for babies in the real-food stage. You're not going to want to pack a bunch of washable ones - they take up a lot of room, and babies make gigantic messes on them!
- If you're traveling with a newborn, and you haven't balanced out your milk supply, bring a manual pump. They're much more compact and easier to use on-the-go, don't require batteries or an outlet, and make less noise.
- On car seats: Unless you have a strong desire to have your own space, I personally recommend putting baby on your lap during flights if he or she is less than a year old. Typically, they spend a majority of the time sleeping or eating anyway. It saves money. Check the prices when you book your flight, though. Airfare for children <2 is a good bit cheaper. It may be worth your sanity to just go ahead and buy a seat, and put the baby in a car seat next to you. It's difficult to lug around a car seat, through the airport and ON the plane, so if you don't need one at your destination, don't bring it at all (if you plan to use public transit only).
- Stroller: You can usually take your stroller through security and check it at the gate when boarding. CHECK beforehand (when you check in for your flight) though. I've found that some places require you to tag it before going through security. Also, keep in mind that some carrier consider strollers (even small umbrella ones) as bulky or extra-large luggage. We've found out the hard way that the airline will sometimes send them out on a DIFFERENT conveyor belt at baggage claim (different than other luggage from the flight). If you don't see it come out, check the other baggage claim belts, looking for a sign for extra large luggage.
- My system for when I traveled with a baby, car seat, stroller, luggage...and 4 other kids...without my husband or other adult: I put my baby in a carrier. I had a backpack on my back with all my carryon items. I placed the carseat onto of my umbrella stroller. I hung my other back on the handles of my stroller. My other kids helped roll one suitcase (even my four year old is capable of rolling it, because it's a nice suitcase with good wheels). A couple of bungee cords are a great tool to have for this set-up! They can help keep the car seat on. I hate "real" strollers. My trusty umbrella stroller has been my pack mule for 6 international trips. It's so lightweight and versatile. I can carry it on my shoulder if absolutely necessary (many European and Asian train stations don't have elevators or escalators!).
- If you book early enough, you can request a baby bassinet (free of charge) on your flight. I've never actually used one.
- Always bring an extra outfit for your baby and also one for YOU. You can't predict "pooplosions.  Also, bring those little disposable bags or ziplocks to put soiled clothes in, if needed.
- Nurse( or give a bottle to) your baby on take-off and landing to help with the pressure difference.
- If possible to book a flight during your baby's natural sleeping time, do that!
- MANY, but not all, airports give priority to families traveling with children in the security lines, as well as customs/immigration lines. However, never count on it.  Allow for extra time to put all your junk on the security conveyor belt, screen any extra liquids you brought, make extra trips to the bathroom before boarding, etc. It's stressful enough traveling with an infant; being in a time crunch will only add unneeded stress!
- My list of my favorite toys/activities to entertain babies/toddlers on planes is here.

Traveling with Children: Toys/activities to keep kids entertained...without watching anything on an electronic device!

Traveling with Children: Toys/activities to keep kids entertained...without watching anything on an electronic device!

My view: I'm not anti-electronics, but I'd rather they be "plan B" when traveling, if at all possible. Most of the items on this list are tried and true, for my children. Some are things that others have found useful. Also, an idea  that I haven't personally used: wrap up new items (like gifts) and give them out in different intervals of time - to keep things exciting. I don't like to create extra trash, but it could work! My philosophy is to travel with the least amount of stuff possible, and I try to find small/compact and disposable items when I can (why I like arts/craft items and playing simple games that don't require anything at all!).


For babies:
- Rings with many toys and tethers connected to them (so they aren't constantly falling on the floor), connected to the car seat
- Photo book with family pictures in it
- Finger puppets
- Melissa and Doug "water wow" pads (for older babies)
- Thin glow sticks (use these in a pinch for entertainment when it's dark and baby is awake and fussy.)
- Small wind up toys (better for planes when you're next to baby to wind them up)
- Sorting cups
- "Fidget" toys like Wackytracks 
- Mini skinny
- Oombee cube shape sorter
- Liquid motion bubbler (keep in mind, this is a liquid, when traveling on planes)

For toddlers (1-2) 
- Pipe cleaners 
- Window clings (gel ones are the best) to put up on the windows, or airplane tray table...like these, but they are much cheaper at dollar stores!
- Melissa and Doug Water Wow pads
- Crayola Color Wonder markers and paper
- Old wallet with old reward cards. This entertains my 1 year old for hours. The more zippers and pockets, the better!
- Magnetic dolls
- Magnetic cars
- Modeling clay - not play dough; the tougher clay. It doesn't stick to stuff as well, and takes a bit longer to make shapes.
- Reusable sticker pads (Melissa and Doug ones are great)
- Wiki Sticks
- Fidget items (robot cube, Wackytracks, fidget spinners)
- Thin glow sticks, for entertaining in the dark, if needed.

For children 3 and up:
- Pipe cleaners - it's amazing what they can create with them! They take up little room, and can be tossed at the end of the trip).
- Legos...more for the older kids. Cut a lego baseplate with a box cutting/craft knife to fit inside a large pencil box or metal lunch box. Fill it with an assortment of legos and people. You can glue the baseplate to the bottom of the box, or on the lid.
- Magnetic tiles - particularly the ones that aren't solid (they don't weigh as much).
- Crayola Color Wonder markers and pads
- Activity books - Usborne makes great ones.
- Weaving looms, crochet hook/yarn (for older kids)
- Melissa and Doug tape activity book
- Magnetic dolls
- Magnetic cars
- Fold up scenes with figurines (Here is a 3 Little Pigs kit...these are better for planes than cars)
- Flash cards
- Trading cards (like Pokemon)
- Music (let them have an old iPod!)
- Audio books
- Take photos (let them take photos of scenery or each other)
- Modeling clay
- Washi tape (there are so many things you can do with it!)
- Boogie board (like a high tech dry erase board)
- Dry erase activity books
- Wiki Sticks
- Origami paper
- Geoboards/rubber bands
- Scavenger hunt cards (for the car). You can also come up with your own!
- Magnetic Tanagram puzzles
- Travel magnetic board games like this chess set
- Old fashioned DIY games (tic-tac-toe, hangman, I spy...)
- You can create your own Scattergories (make a list of items, choose a random letter, use the timer on your phone...or just bring the cards from your actual board game!) 
- "Pass it on" drawing game: Fold a paper into thirds. One person draws the head, passes it to the next person - who draws the body, who passes it back (or to the next person) who draws the legs. Example here.
- Reading, of course! Kindles are electronic devices, but they don't count as such when my kids read on them! :) They can "bring" 100+ books for the weight of one!
- Converse! How do we always forget to just talk with one another?

Another tip:
- If you have more two or three kids sitting next to one another, invest in an audio splitter.  This way they can listen to the same thing at the same time (for music or an audio book). Of course, this works too if you allow them to watch a movie. :) Here is a two way. This one is a five-way.

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